Storytelling - Story Writing

12:40 AM / Posted by Attractmatic / comments (0)

Soon, will be updated as a new article with my own notes.

Storytelling 101: Crafting Your Illustration for Maximum Impact


~ by Michele Cushatt
“Structure is a selection of events from the characters’ life stories that is composed into a strategic sequence to arouse specific emotions and to express a specific view of life.” ~ Robert McKee, Story
Within moments of his opening, I was spellbound. He described characters I could almost see, and painted a setting so exquisite I could picture it as if I were already there. He continued on for 20 minutes, or maybe an hour. Who knows? Time stood still, and he could’ve talked for hours for all I cared. I was a child lost in story, unaware of the world around me.
A communicator who knows how to weave a story into his message is the best kind. Regardless of the topic–a stadium packed with fans or a conference room filled with staff–the communicator who learns the art of story, practices it, and then masters it can command the attention of anyone. And deliver the message he was made to tell.
To tell a story, you need to understand story composition. Like bones for the body, the right elements have the ability to make a story–and your message–stand. Learn the rules, and you can move your message (and audience) anywhere you want it to go. Ignore them, and your message is likely to flounder.
Depending on which story resource you study, a story can be broken down various ways. Because our application is speaking rather than writing, I’ve simplified the process into five basic elements. To help us understand it in real time, I’ve used the Biblical parable of The Prodigal Son as an example. (Luke 11:15-24)
Element #1: Exposition. This is the story’s beginning, the every-day life of the main character before complications interrupt the status quo. Whereas a novel may take pages to establish ordinary life, a speech can not afford to do so. This may be a sentence or two at most. Or it may be woven into the other elements of your story. When Jesus told the story of the Prodigal Son, he provided very little details into the father and sons’ ordinary life. But we know enough to have a context for what’s about to happen: There are two sons, a father, and enough wealth to make for an inheritance.
Element #2: Inciting Incident. Just as life, every good story is ripe with tension. Without conflict, we’d question its authenticity. The inciting incident is an event that initiates conflict and pushes the main character to a point of no return. Ultimately it requires change, which is the substance of the rest of the story. In our parable, the youngest son asks for his inheritance, an offensive request of a still-living father. In this case, the son initiates the conflict, creating his own inciting incident and taking him in a direction that will change him forever.
Element #3: Rising Action. As with most stories, tension isn’t typically limited to one event or scenario. The best stories are those thick with complications, one right after the other, until the character faces insurmountable odds. We see this clearly in the predicament of the youngest son. He leaves his father with a fat wallet and more than enough selfish ambition. He takes off sky high, ready to party and live it up. But soon his money runs out, a famine hits the country, and eventually he has no food, nor any hopeful prospects. We see him feeding swine, starving, longing to eat pig slop but without a single friend or advocate to help fill his belly.
Element #4: Climax. This is where tension hits a peak. It’s the character’s worst case scenario, the fork in the road where the character’s life could literally go one way or the other. Everything hangs in the balance and we don’t yet know how the story will end. When the Prodigal Son realizes he is likely to starve, it occurs to him he can return home and beg to be a servant on his father’s staff. Still, the tension hasn’t yet hit its peak. I believe the climax of this story is that brief moment when the son and the father, still separated by distance, see each other. In that split second, the son doesn’t yet know if he’ll be received. The story could go either way.
Element #5: Resolution. Also known as denouement (from a French word meaning to “untie,” as in knots), this is how the story ends. The tension is relieved, crisis is averted. As a result of the journey, the character is transformed. We see this beautifully portrayed in the story of the son. When the father sees his lost son in the distance, he is moved with love and compassion and takes off in a run. When the dejected, lost, hungry, and humiliated younger son sees his radiant father at a gallop, he changes. The son who asks to be a servant is a much more humble and meek version of the child who took his father’s money and ran away.
I have one final instruction for the crafting of your story. Really, it’s where you should begin. When choosing a story to tell, you must first establish the objective of your message. A story is nothing but entertainment unless you know what you hope to accomplish in the telling of it. We have enough entertainers; what we need more of is masterful messengers. Determine your objective, and then identify these five elements of your story. Use each one to further your objective, concluding with a resolution that drives your objective home. If you do, your audience will be spellbound and your message delivered like a master.

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Relationships

3:47 AM / Posted by Attractmatic / comments (0)

After a break up, show that you don't care and in fact, your life standards had been improved. Show that you are happy anyway. Do not ignore her. Just ignore what you have lived together.

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Attraction Stages

9:48 AM / Posted by Attractmatic / comments (0)

Use a disqualifier. It can not be an insult, it can not be anything that she can't overcome like you have kids, it can not be something bad about her. It should be something positive. If you don't disqualify yourself early on, they will think you are hitting on her.
(She might say "why you are here then?")


You have to be a challenge for her. High status men are not easy to win. If she attracts you easily, she will be skeptical about your other qualities.

If she want you to buy her drink, don't. But if you order yourself one, then offer politely. if you don't offer, it will look like a lack of social intuition.

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Attraction Do's and Don'ts

7:54 AM / Posted by Attractmatic / comments (0)

When opening;

  • Assume that you already know the set. Like they are your friends.
  • Assume good reaction.
  • Don't react to social pressure. Have immunity for social pressure.
  • Don't introduce yourself.
  • Don't prefix anything, like "I want to ask this because of bla bla bla..."
When Transitioning;
  • You can pick a detail in her answer and interrupt to get in that conversation. But if she go back to the previous topic, do not come back to this detail later. It looks like you are trying hard.

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BadBoy's 8 Steps to become a Bad Boy

4:29 AM / Posted by Attractmatic / comments (0)

This is how to be badboy

(Source: BadBoy PUA)

Badboys are often considered as cocky jerks. But, they anyway seem to be a chick magnet. Girls love this kind of men – they are masculine, strong, confident, they are FUN. But, remember this – being a ‘badboy’ is not the same as being a bad guy. It’s about respecting yourself. How to be Badboy is simply placing your needs above her needs!

Nice guys are focused on pleasing a girl’s needs, doing everything she wants while forgetting their own needs. Badboys are focused on themselves. First they satisfy their needs and then they reward a woman (if she behaved according to his needs and standards).

Nice guys give everything away too easily (their time, their respect, body, money), but how to be Badboy is to put more  of a  challenge,  fun, to be  interesting, full of life, a tease… Badboys are hard to get.

But the biggest difference between those two is :

Nice guy needs her attention, needs her, while Badboys DO NOT NEED HER. Badboy can walk away any moment from her and replace her with better girl. That’s why girls are chasing Badboys.

this is how to be Badboy :  you have to implement  this things in your Game/ Personality that will make girls call you a “Badboy”

1. Set the Boundaries/Rules of your love life. 

At the moment woman  crosses the border of what’s allowed, you  walk away from them (approach another girl in front of her eyes) or even better, kick them out from your house/apartment. PUNISH BAD BEHAVIOR, REWARD GOOD BEHAVIOR should be your MANTRA.

Remember : The moment you start respecting yourself, they will start to respect you, this is how to be  Badboy

2. Be Late 

This is a 180° spin from Nice guy that will arrive earlier and wait for her. Let them wait for you little bit. There is an psychological effect with being late. Creating “I need him’’ frame is what professors on Uni do all the time, they are late on purpose for 15 min, and therefore create “they need me” frame. Everything goes smoother from there.2Be Non-responsive on her tests/shit.

To be Badboy you have to be more relaxed than she is, more in control,  and when she tries to provoke a response from you with something like “I have a boyfriend”,  just be very slow, non-reactive, with a smile on your face and in a 3 second delay respond with : “cool”.

3. Have a Life! 

How to be Badboy is to have your life  full of hobbies, activities, interesting things you do. Girl has to look at you like: “wow, he’s living a life I would like to live.” + she understands your free time is a gift to her. She has to work to get  your time. She is just one more thing you do in your day not a hotspot of your day.

How to be Badboy – Memoirs of a Badboy

4. Be sexually open 

Badboys are not hiding their sexuality. They are very comfortable with their sexuality. If he likes something on his girl, he will say it, or act on it. E.g. If she has a nice ass, he will spank her gently and whisper “yummmmmy’ to her ear. Badboy will express his mind, he will  always tell what’s on his dirty mind . BADBOYS ARE DIRTY!!!  Girls love this, because Badboys allow them to fulfill their dirtiest fantasies, something they cannot  do with their “normal” boyfriends who may judge them for it.

5. Lead, Lead, Lead… 

You make decisions and do not hesitate – you know what’s good for her (and in the end, it is). Badboys take them to places where they feel good, comfortable… Badboys take over control so she ends up playing his game. That’s how to be Badboy.

6. Take the Risk! 

Badboys are a risk takers, if they have to choose between safe route and risky one, they will  choose the risky route  and that makes an ADVENTURE (even if risks are very small). This makes a girl feeling ALIVE. It’s totally opposite from what Nice-guys are doing with them.

7. Be Unpredictable

They love when they can’t figure you out. Normal guys are predictable and easy to control because of it, but with with Badboys they have no idea what’s next, where they’re gonna end up, where he’s going to take her. That makes things so much more interesting for a woman. If she thinks you will take her for a dinner, you take her to Zoo, and other way around…How to be badboy is to be  unpredictable, have fun with them.

-Make her buy you things

Instead of spending money on her, flip the table.. and make her spend money on you. Not each time, but from time to time show up without wallet on date ( promisse you wil pay  next time hehe), or explain her that you expect from her to take you out somewhere
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8. and the Most Important, Keep the Nice-guy in you. 

Every Badboy has a soft, nice side, but he’s hiding it. She has to deserve to see it, to experience it, its a reward.

 -Focus on Yourself / be selfish

this is an core of Being an Badboy – this is how to be Badboy Nice guys focus hardcore of girls pleasure and make sure she is happy, and satisfied, which girls found :  Boring
So instead of trying just like any other guy to satisfy her ass, you flip the table. Example. You go on date where you want to go, not where she would like to go. You wanna see some cool movie in cinema, you take her there to see movie YOU would like to see, not what she would like to see! In your life your happiness is way more important then hers. You infront of her. Your needs infront of hers. ( until you move to relationship) then things will change. This is the core of how to be Badboy. Practice it!

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Perfecting the Body Language

10:46 AM / Posted by Attractmatic / comments (0)

To perfect your look and body language, choose some good, charismatic alpha examples in your acquaintances or on television and try to understand the patterns they use when they look, when they smile, when they laugh, when they are telling something. Observe their hand and facial gestures. One important note on this: Never mimic someone or you will look like a cheap Chinese copy of a specific person which is unattractive.

Some Examples on this

  •  Charismatic men stand straight and tall, chin is down at the slightest (as slight as 5 or 10 degrees) as you can look straight forward and your eyebrows would look like a "V"

  • They have significant and manly gestures. Usually the hands are solidly open and look tough like a slap. Dynamic hand moves are like they hold something solid and big (Like a wallet) in their hands.

  • Dominant Laughter. They don't afraid to make sound when they laugh. Sometimes you feel like you can't hold your laugh. Charismatic men sounds like they are willingly laughter.

  • Whatever you do, be conscious of your image. It can be as simple as taking something out from your bag on the train. Do it in a dominant and confident way. Observe people (With the style you go after. This is important because it varies style to style. I.E Low energy alpha males does things whole differently than high energy alpha males.) who does it right. Understand the patterns. Exercise them in the mirror.

  • Improve your walk as the same way above.

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Be Captivating

5:13 AM / Posted by Attractmatic / comments (0)


Danger is seductive..

Desire always wins out over reason..


If you want to be a leader, you should be likeable and get people to like you. Also people are most fascinated with and attached to what they can’t have (Have scarcity).

You have to have authority beside those two. People are like sheeps, they tend to be led. They want to have someone look up to.


Have an Interesting Hobby


Have something you can be passionate about. Have something more important than women and the game.

What you are doing in your spare time directly reflects your personality. Choose wisely and consider those concepts:

Adventurous

Free Spirited

Thrill Seeking

Passionate

Challenging hobbies are make you more mature..


Have an Interesting Profession

If you don’t have one, find a cool way to say your job, be playful with it. Don’t get identified by your mundane boring job.


Interesting Skills


Card Tricks or Magic Tricks

Play an Instrument (Learn to play a full song, if people scream for more or repeat, just simply refuse. Say you don’t wanna steal the thuner of the party. Even say I can play all night but it wouldn’t be fun for anyone else. You will look modest as a bonus.

 

Being fun and playful.

Develop a character – Humor comes out from a character.  Without a character, you will look as recite of jokes.

Have Contrasts in Your Life

Think about a bank invester who plays in a blues band on weekends.


Unpredictable

Predictablity kills interest. People love to be swerved when they don’t expect it. You will become more interesting if you reveal yourself slowly. Make them wonder what comes next.

Build rapport and make your target think that she figured you out, led her to one direction, and when you feel she thinks that, reveal a secret, make an action  or tell a story or a fact about yourself that contradictory to your character that you show thus far.

 

Danger, taboo and such things are unacceptable yet seductive. Girls would act as they are disapproving a character but they can get fascinated by it.

 

Appear Fearless

We all driven by our ridiculous fears and most of the time, those fears are not life threatning. Most of the time they are about what people might think about us and our seeking for their approval. Fear of losing your reputation, fear of rejection, fear of being laughed at, Afraid of making a wrong decision…

Women are attracted by bad boys because bad boys causes adrenaline rush in their body. Girls see reflections of their fears and insecurities on the average guys. That’s why average guys become their friends instead of lovers. Bad boy makes her forget about her insecurities…

Whatever it is you fear, feel the fear, do it anyway…

Best way to deal with a fear is facing with a relly big one..

 

Say Less Than Necessary

You don’t need to be clear. Less you say, more they tend to try and fill the blanks. People thinks that its necessary to know what you are thinking. More you control what you reveal, more they will try to interpret you.  It doesn’t means you should shut your mouth. Its for your thoughts. There is a difference between being shy and being mysterious.

Never forget: You might burn inside to saying her you love her but once you reveal how deep your feelings are, the interest she feels toward you will start to extinguish..

 

Know Where You Are Going

People like sheep, they want to be led. You always have to look confident in your decisions. It is not only limited to long term decisions like your career and major in college. It includes your daily experiences like which place you are going, which direction you chose etc.. When someone asks where to go, people tend to say doesn’t matter, where do you wanna go? You shouldn’t do that. You always live in your own terms. You always look like you know where is cool because you are inside of it. Even if the place is dead, act as it is gonna be a great time. Make it a great time.

 

Never Appear Too Perfect

Don’t talk about your accomplishments too much. If you seem too perfect, people will naturally feel strong envy about you and starts talking behind your back. They will naturally feel the urge to ruin you at first chance. Sometimes it’s not enough to not talk about your accomplishments, sometimes you need to hide your talents consciously.

Also by the way, your future accomplishments should be an expected thing. Your peers should know that you may get a promotion or a victory about something.

 

Show Your Cool With Action, Not With Your Words

Dont tell anything about how you can get the girls. Just get them. Whenever you go somewhere with your friends, be the one who fits first. Just lead with act.

 

Create a Winning Group Culture

Make your group a winner group. Focus on your groups success instead of looking like a self centered bastard.

 

Delegate Authority, Not Responsibility

Tell him you trust him to find the best on something, instead of saying he is in charge.

 

Know Your Competition

There will always someone who wants to be the superstar.

* These notes are taken from the book: Social Superstar

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