Danger is
seductive..
Desire
always wins out over reason..
If you want to be a leader, you should be likeable and get
people to like you. Also people are most fascinated with and attached to what
they can’t have (Have scarcity).
You have to have authority beside those two. People are like
sheeps, they tend to be led. They want to have someone look up to.
Have an Interesting
Hobby
Have something you can be passionate about. Have something
more important than women and the game.
What you are doing in your spare time directly reflects your
personality. Choose wisely and consider those concepts:
Adventurous
Free Spirited
Thrill Seeking
Passionate
Challenging hobbies are make you more mature..
Have an Interesting
Profession
If you don’t have one, find a cool way to say your job, be
playful with it. Don’t get identified by your mundane boring job.
Interesting Skills
Card Tricks or Magic Tricks
Play an Instrument (Learn to play a full song, if people
scream for more or repeat, just simply refuse. Say you don’t wanna steal the
thuner of the party. Even say I can play all night but it wouldn’t be fun for
anyone else. You will look modest as a bonus.
Being fun and playful.
Develop a character – Humor comes out from a character. Without a character, you will look as recite
of jokes.
Have Contrasts in
Your Life
Think about a bank invester who plays in a blues band on
weekends.
Unpredictable
Predictablity kills interest. People love to be swerved when
they don’t expect it. You will become more interesting if you reveal yourself
slowly. Make them wonder what comes next.
Build rapport and make your target think that she figured
you out, led her to one direction, and when you feel she thinks that, reveal a
secret, make an action or tell a story
or a fact about yourself that contradictory to your character that you show
thus far.
Danger, taboo and such things are unacceptable yet
seductive. Girls would act as they are disapproving a character but they can
get fascinated by it.
Appear Fearless
We all driven by our ridiculous fears and most of the time,
those fears are not life threatning. Most of the time they are about what
people might think about us and our seeking for their approval. Fear of losing
your reputation, fear of rejection, fear of being laughed at, Afraid of making
a wrong decision…
Women are attracted by bad boys because bad boys causes
adrenaline rush in their body. Girls see reflections of their fears and
insecurities on the average guys. That’s why average guys become their friends
instead of lovers. Bad boy makes her forget about her insecurities…
Whatever it is you fear, feel the fear, do it anyway…
Best way to deal with a fear is facing with a relly big
one..
Say Less Than
Necessary
You don’t need to be clear. Less you say, more they tend to
try and fill the blanks. People thinks that its necessary to know what you are
thinking. More you control what you reveal, more they will try to interpret
you. It doesn’t means you should shut your
mouth. Its for your thoughts. There is a difference between being shy and being
mysterious.
Never forget: You might burn inside to saying her you love
her but once you reveal how deep your feelings are, the interest she feels
toward you will start to extinguish..
Know Where You Are
Going
People like sheep, they want to be led. You always have to
look confident in your decisions. It is not only limited to long term decisions
like your career and major in college. It includes your daily experiences like
which place you are going, which direction you chose etc.. When someone asks
where to go, people tend to say doesn’t matter, where do you wanna go? You
shouldn’t do that. You always live in your own terms. You always look like you
know where is cool because you are inside of it. Even if the place is dead, act
as it is gonna be a great time. Make it a great time.
Never Appear Too
Perfect
Don’t talk about your accomplishments too much. If you seem
too perfect, people will naturally feel strong envy about you and starts
talking behind your back. They will naturally feel the urge to ruin you at
first chance. Sometimes it’s not enough to not talk about your accomplishments,
sometimes you need to hide your talents consciously.
Also by the way, your future accomplishments should be an
expected thing. Your peers should know that you may get a promotion or a
victory about something.
Show Your Cool With
Action, Not With Your Words
Dont tell anything about how you can get the girls. Just get
them. Whenever you go somewhere with your friends, be the one who fits first.
Just lead with act.
Create a Winning
Group Culture
Make your group a winner group. Focus on your groups success
instead of looking like a self centered bastard.
Delegate Authority,
Not Responsibility
Tell him you trust him to find the best on something,
instead of saying he is in charge.
Know Your Competition
There will always someone who wants to be the superstar.
* These notes are taken from the book: Social Superstar Labels: Alpha
